You know, this whole potty training thing.
I mean, I've done it twice already so I should be an old pro at it, right?
As he continually shows me, he is not his sister nor his brother.
He is made from the same cloth but different.
He is independent, stubborn, opinionated and does things on his own time.
I've been thinking about this post for a while and just couldn't write it, because I didn't want judgement from other moms. It's hard enough to be a mom- potty train, discipline, educate, clean, drive, make decisions on a daily basis- without the judgement of others. I didn't want to open myself up to that judgement- you know the one.
Your kid is 3.5 years old and NOT fully potty trained yet? What the hell are you doing wrong? Why can't YOU get it done? My kid was potty trained by the time she was 2/2.5/3 years old. You are SO behind
YOU MUST NOT BE A GOOD MOTHER.
And ouch, even typing that hurts. I know I am a good mother. I love that kid so freaking much it hurts. I know this is not a reflection of my parenting skills
But we can't seem to get over the hurdle to poop in the damn potty. Yeah, he is pee-trained (and I can't believe I am writing an entire post about my kid and his BOWEL movements). He's doing great there- will wear his undies and not mess them up one bit. BUT
Where does he poop? In a pull-up. Yeah, I even cringed a tiny bit writing that. But yes, I am his mom and my son still craps in a pull up and he is 3.5 years old. I've tried everything to get him to poop on the potty and he is having NONE. OF. IT.
Bribery- nope. Special treats- nope. Poopy party- nope. Not talking about it for along time in hopes that he will do it on his own- nope.
Nada. Nope. Zilch.
In my mom gut/heart/soul, I KNOW he will do it when he is good and ready and over the fear of actually sitting on the commode to do his *business* instead of standing up to do his *business*. I know he will be trained before he heads off to kindergarten in two years
Surely I am not the only mother of an older child who isn't 100% potty-trained?
I feel somewhat silly asking the internet for validation but here it is, I am asking for poop validation.
Validate me, please?
I wrote this (finally) as part of The Extraordinary Ordinary's Just Write exercise.